Child psychology course|5 bate jo Walden ko bacho se nahi Karni chaheye.
Youn to ham boht ghaltiyan krte hen. Parenting complete science he. Aesa nahi ke, ye automatically aa jati he. Isko seekhna parts he pehle hamare barre boodhe hame sikhate the or ham seekhte the. Jo hamare bare body seekhate the un me kuch Cheeze sahi hoti thi kuch Cheeze sahi nahi hoti thi. Tested nahi hoti thi.
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Aj modern psychology itni aam gae he. Itni research hoti he or pata hota he ke ye kam sahi he is ke ye nataij hote he, or is kam ko Karne ke ye nuqsan hen. Jab ke pehle itni research nahi hoti, bas mushahida hota tha yaqeeni tor per.
Aj ham bunyadi tor un 5 bato ka zikr Karen ge. Jis per sari Duniya ke psychologist is per research kar rahi he. Ab ham un 5 bato ka zikr Karen ge jo bacho ke samne nahi krni he.
1. Comparison nahi Karna
SB se pehle ye bat Hargis nahi Karni he ke me tumari umar ka tha to ye kam kiya karta tha, ya me tumhari umar ki thi to ye kam kiya Karti thi. Aksar Walden me ye commen beemari hoti he, ke wo bat bat me Bache ko ye taana Marte hen ke tumhari umar me ye kam kiya karta tha. Khas tor per Jo Young bache hote he, un ko ye taana bohat ziyada diya jata he. Ap ko nahi pata is ka kiya nuqsan he? Ap ko nahi pata is ke peeche kiya psychology kam kar rahi he? Zehn me kis tarh ki images ban rahi he. Jab ap bache ko ye kehte he, to ap lasha'oori tor per apne ap ka bache se muqabla karwa rahe hote hen. Ap competition kar rahe hen, ap comparisons kar rahe hen. Kis ka? Apne ap ka apne bache ke 7.
Comparison competition ka usool
Comparison competition ka 1 usool ap yad rakh lijiye. Wo yeke jab bhi competition hota he. To 1 Harta he 1 jeet'ta he. Yani competition ka khatam haar or jeet ke falsafe pe hota he.
Examples:
1: Jab dorne ki ress hoti he to1st us me 1 hota he, baqi sab us ke peeche hote he.
2: Jb exams hote hen to us me bhi 1st position kisi 1 ki he hoti he baqi 2nd or 3rd position per hote he. Matlab baqi saare peeche rehte hen. Jab ap constantly bacho ko ye keh rahe hen, me tumhari umar me tha to ye karta tha, wo kerta tha. Ap bache se apne ap ko compare kar rahe hen.
2. Dosra uska nuqsan ye he ke ap apne competitor ke dil me apni nafrat dal rahe hote hen automatically. Ap isko nafrat na bhi Kahen, lakin 1 negative feeling hoti hee he.
2. Apne bacho ke feslon per tanqeed na kare.
Is ka Matlab ap Kaho ge, ke kiya her bat bache ki maa li jae?
Is ka jawab ye he ke ap tanqeed ka rasta chor ker islah ka rasta apnae. Jab ap ko lage ke ye kam theek nahi he, jab ap ko lage ke ye feel sahi nahi he. To us waqt ap tanqeed na kare us ko aesa na kahe ke tum ne ye kiya kam karte rehte ho?
ye kiya fazool kam kiya he?
Ap bajae us tanqeed ke ap us se pooch sakte ho ke us se acha kiya kar sakte ho? Ap sawalat ka rasta ikhtiyar ker sakte ho. Bajae us ke tanqeed ke foran alternate program install Karna shuroo kar de. Is se behter or kiya ho skta tha? Ap ke nazdeek is ke or kiya advantage ho skta hen. Q ke bohat sare feslo me unhe rehnumai ki zarootat hoti he. Unhe pata nahi hota wo ker kiya rahe hen. Un ko awareness nahi hoti. Un ka goal clear nahi hota. Ager ham tanqeed karte hen, ya rokte hen, to bacha bhi us kam ke peeche lag jata he. Ke an to mujhe ye kam krna he. Q ke ye inSan ki nafsiyat me he. Jis kam se Roka jae wo kam us ke lasha'oor me utna he highlights hota he. Is me bache ka qusoor nahi he, zehn he aese kam karta he.
Aj se ye krna he ke bache ka Jo fesla he us ki islah Karni he. Sawalat ke zariye or us kam ke goals set kareaeye. Us se pooche us ke or kiya faide hen? Is kam se tme kiya mileage? Ye Is se behter tm kiya kar skte ho? Jese he usko awareness hogi usko pata chale ga. Wo bolega ohh ye to me chahta he nahi hon. To wo were he us ko chor dega.
3. Bacho ka muqabla 2sre bacho se na karwaen
Jis tarh pehle point me parents apna muqabla apne bacho se karwa rahe the is point me parents, bacho ke daiyan muqabla kerwa rahe hen. Wo bolte hen ap ka hai to apse acha he, us ke number to apse boht ache hen. Us ke decision to apse ziyada ache hote hen waghera waghera... Again ap Bhai ke dil me Mohabbat ki Jaga Bhai ki nafrat daal rahe hon. Us se inspire nahi hoga. Balke uski nafrat apne dil me palne lagega. Us ke 7 competition rakhe ga. Hame lage ga nahi ye to healthy competition he. Ye to hona chahiye. Healthy competition hone chaheye, lekin is bat me hamare parents itne aware nahi hote he, un ko ye nahi pata hota ke healthy competition kese hote hen, or unhealthy competition kese hote hen. Wo trend nahi hote he.
4. Bacho ke samne larai jhagde na kare.
Koi aesa couple he jis ki aps me banti nahi bs wo aese he survive ker rahe he, bacho ki khatir relationship ko lekr chal rahe hen. Wo 1 2sre ko pasand nahi krte he. Ye bat bacho ko bhi pata he, ke mere walid meri walda ko pasand nahi karta, ya meri walda mere walid ko pasand kahi kerti he. Walden apni negative emotion ko bacho ke an der transfer ker dete hen. Wo is tarh ke beta he maa usko keh deti hen tm to ho he bap ki tarh, tm to apne bap par gae ho. Tumari sari aadte baap per gae he, or bache ko pata he meri maa mere baap ko pasand Nahi karti, ya negative feelings rakhti hen. To automatically us ke dil me C
Bhi wohi negative feelings develop hone lag jaengi ap ke liye Jo us ke walid ke dil me he, q ke ab ap ne walid ki tarf automatically kr ddiya usko. Ye sari baten automatically chal rahi he. Jitni nafrat us ka walid apse kar Raha hoga, or bacha dekh Raha he.wohi cheez automatically bacha adopt kare ge, or walid ki tarh behave karne lage ga. Q ke ap ne he walid wale emotion connect kiye hen. Transfer kiye hen. Isi tarh walid bachiyon se isi tarh krte hen, ke tm to ho he apni walda ki tarh ho, baz oqat wo kehta he tm to apne nanihal per gae ho.
Ye Sara psychological process he. Ye smajhna pare ga ap ko. Ke bacho ko Kabhi bhi aesi cheez se associate na kare Jo ap ke anty ho.
5. Apni tangdasti ko bacho ke samne zahir na kare.
Pese Nahi he, tangedrdsti he, an bacha kisi cheez per zid kar Raha he. Usko ye na kahe ke pese nahi he. Ap ye kahe ke bad me dilae ge. Ap ye na kahe ke me Kangal hon. Hota ye he ke ja ap bar bar tangdasti ka Izhar karte he, to is se bacha aahista aahista nashukra hojata he. Shukar guzari un se nikal jati he. Jab ap bache ko is tarh kehte ho ke Jeb me pese nahi he, Abhi me nahi dilao ga. To us waqt halt e nashukra me hote ho.
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