Bacho se communicate (bat) krna

 Bacho se communicate (baat)  krna

Bacho-se-communicate-(bat)-krna

SB se ziyada poocha jane wala swal Walden ye pochte he k bache Hamari bat nahi mante hen?

Ye sawal boht sare Walden pooch he ke aesi kiya ghaltiya hoti he jis ki wajh seunkee bache un ki bat nahi man rahe hote hen. Bacho ka koi qusoor nahi hota. Asal me ham log kahi na kahialsoi ghaltiyan kar rahe hote he jis ki wajh se bache Hamari Baat nahi man rahe hote he. Yani hm apna message bacho ko Sahi treeke se nahi de rahe hote he. Jis ki wajh se hame response nahi mil Raha hota he. Yani hm JoChahh rahe hote he us pr amal nahi kiya ja Raha hota he. Hame lagta he ke wo badkameezz ho Gaye he. Uske 7 ko masala ho Gaya he. Jis ka ab ilaj kiya jae.  Yaha me 4 ghaltiyon ke bare me bat karte hon.

1. Poor Communication problem

Walden apne bacho ke 7 poor communication karte he. Us bat ka and as a Walden ko bhi nahi hota. Walden ko Sahi treeke se nahi pata hota he ke bacho ke 7 kis trh bat krte he. is tarh bhi kaha ja skta he k bacho ka zehan kis tarh ki communication ko accept Karta he. Jis ke upper phir bache response de rahe hote he. Jb hmari communication ghalt he kb hamare bat krne ka Andaz ghalat he to hame response bhi ghalt milega.  Misaal ke tor pr Walden ko khud pata nahi hota ke wo bacho ka kesa behavior chahte he.  Un ka ziyada tar yehi focus hota he ke ye nahi kijiye wo nahi kijiye. Yaha nahi jay wahan nahi jaaeye. Yahan nahi bethiye. Matlab communication ka 1 pattern hota he.

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 Communication ke pattern ko utha ker dekhe to us me ap sirf "nahi" ki targheeb de rahe hote hen. Bache ko har waqt "no, no" bata rahe hote ho. Ap agr bache ko zor se kahe ke ap meri shirt ki tarf na dekhe ya ap shor macha kar kahe ya ap mar peet kar bhi kahe ke ap kamre ke pardo ke bare me na soche.  Is ka Matlab he ap bache ko command he ghalt de rahe ho. Agr ap us ko ye command piyar se de ya cheekh kr de ya chilla kr de ya maarpeet ke de. Us ki picture bache ke zehn me zaroor bethe gi. 

Aj se "han" ki targheeb de.

Is se Murad Jo kam ap bache se krwana chahte he ap usko kahe ke ap ye kam kare?  Agr ap usko ye bataen ge ke ap ye kam Karen. Ye kam ap ko unti martba kehna he jitni martba ap bache ko nahi ka kehte rahe he.  Aesa nahi ke ap  1 martba bache ko kahe ke ap ye kam kare. Phir to bacha nahi ore ga to ap kehe ge ke bacha Hamara kehna nahi manta. Kuch arse ke bad bacha positive command ko apnea ga. Or ap ko response dene lage ga. 

2. Poor body language

Wo ye hoti he ke jb hm bat krte he to Hamari body language jo hm use krte he. Wo bohat he negative hoti he. Yahan bhi hame ye nahi pata hota ke hm kis let me bat kr rahe he. Body language or lehja ye boht he bara matter Karta he jb hm bache se bat ker rahe hote he. SB se important ye hota he ke jb hm bat kr rhe ho to Hamara lehjacommandy hona chaheye. 

3. Understanding

Bache or parents ke darmiyan understanding nahi hoti he. 

Jab tak bache or parents ke darmiyan understanding nahi hogi chahe Walden ki bat kitni he q na zaroori ho. Bacha ap ki bat nahi mane ga. Bacha kiya agr miyan bivi ke darmiyan bhi aesi bat ho to wo bhi 1,2sre ki bat nahi mane ge. Us ke bar'as agr Jaha understanding hogi to Samne wala shakhs apni bat manwa kr rahe ga. Bacho ke 7 aek acha Rishta Qaim kijiye.

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Ye understanding kese peda hoti he. Wo is tarh jab ap bache ke interest me apna interest peda Karen ge. Us ki raw ka

ahtram Karen ge. Us ki bat to achi tarh sune ge. Us ko Mohabbat dejiye. Us ke 7 time spent kijiye. Us ki pasand ko napasand nahi kare. Let's suppose bacha agr kehta he mujhe ye color pasand he to ap bhi kahe ke mujhe bhi ye color pasand he. Show kijiye ke hm or ap aek 2sre k 7,7 he. Mera mind ap ke mind ki tarh kam Karta he. Aesa nahi kahiye ke ap ko ye pasand he munhe ye pasand nahi. Agr is trah kaha to maza he mazq me repo se bar hote ja rahe ho. 1 bat yad rakhe ke repo kese build hota he. Our brain like the likeness. Hm apne jese logo ko pasand karte he. Ager apne best friend ko dekhe ge to un ki or ap ki pasand 1 Jesi hogi. Koi na koi similar hoti he jis ki wajh se friendship hoti he. Jb ye similarity khatam hoti he, to friendship bhi khatam hoti he. Ham kisi ease ko apna best friend nahi banate he jis ka mind 1 jesa na ho.  

Misaal ke tor per agr ap ko koi political party pasand he. Or ap kisi ease shakes se mile usko bhi wahi political party pasand he to automatically ap 2no ki understanding barh jae gi. Isi tarh agr ap ko pata chala us ki or ap ki pasand 1 Jesi nahi to ap ki or us ki understanding nahi hogi. 

4. Rewards or punishment

Walden ko ye nahi pata hota he kab bache ki tareef Karni he. Kb bache ko punish Karna he. Punish ka ye Hargis Matlab nahi. Ke danda mare ya usko 1,2 Thapar maare. Jab bhi bacha ap ki bat maane. Rewards se Murad ye nahi ke us ko hr bar koi Naya gift laker de. Reward se Murad appreciates kijiye. Us ke liye thumbs up kijiye. Taa ke bache ko ye pata chal ske, ke mene ye kam kiya tha. Us ko appreciate kiya Gaya tha. Us ko wo bar bar kare.